Sexual Relations

Despite being gay, I am so traditional in my views of relationships. For example, I still think that if one has developed a strong friendship which has led to sexual intimacy... that this is much more than a friendship and should be treated as such.  I have learned though, that many people do not think this way.  They see sex as just another activity.... to satisfy the senses, or the appetite.......  I see it as a bit more complex than that.  If a bond has been nurtured over time, and sex has become a wonderful part of that bond, there is something very sacred and special about this.  I cannot understand how if two people believe this to be true, and are having a good time, why commitment cannot come along with it.  Some people, I guess, see sex as an added bonus to a friendship.... and do not place it on the level of commitment to a special lover.  If I were to be dating a guy and found out that they were messing around with another guy behind my back, I would be furious.  Sexual intimacy is a bond, a trust, a special experience to be shared with somebody you love and care about... But it's more than that...... it means that that person is extra special to you... not just another friend.  It is sad when people do not share this view...